Find month 5 here.

Now let’s have sex!! And this month let’s focus on not doing the same thing you have always done. Again, I want you to communicate with your partner and talk about what you think your routine in bed is. To you is it foreplay, then sex, or kissing, and then sex, or bending over the dishwasher and then sex? What is the process in your eyes? What’s the process in your partner’s eyes? A quick raise of the eyebrow and it means let’s do it and the clothes come off? Get on the same page about what the process is to you.

Now how can you change that process? If you think that making out is not enough foreplay then what would be enough? Making out, then some oral sex? No making out and just oral sex? Some people are uncomfortable making out after oral sex so make sure you check with your partner to see if that is one of their off limits things. Does foreplay mean a little romance first? Do you need flowers before you have sex?

Add some toys to your routine. A bullet is a very simple way to add some vibration on the skin during a massage, or the genital areas before progressing into intercourse. If your partner finishes quicker than you do then use a vibrator for insertion to have an orgasm before intercourse starts. A masturbation sleeve is a nice way to add a new spin on the average hand job during foreplay and it saves a little wear and tear on your arm. A hand job, some making out, some vibration all over the skin and you’ve got some fun before penetration even occurs! Who says it has to be wham, bam, thank you ma’am?

What about your position during intercourse? Do you do the same one every time? I highly recommend a sexual positions book or the 52 Sex Positions cards to help you get some new ideas to spice up the actual penetration. You’ll notice too that in male/female intercourse new positions add new sensations and pleasures to your intercourse. Often times new positions give new comfort and pleasure options. Experimenting with positions can also help you find ways to access the g-spot as well. Please keep in mind when experimenting with new positions it’s very important to communicate with your partner. If the position you try makes you feel funky, or is painful by all means communicate that to your partner. Many women will also not feel as sexy in certain positions so it’s ok to stop and say that position doesn’t work for you. Otherwise you can’t stop thinking about the uncomfortable situation and you aren’t able to enjoy the pleasure that is occurring.

The same sexual routine starts to get old for anyone after a while. Once you’ve been in a relationship for several years it’s bound to get boring. There is nothing wrong with suggesting something new to spice it up and keep that fire burning in the bedroom.

Here is what Love U Parties is offering our hosts in the month of October as the monthly special. This is just one of the benefits you get for hosting a Love U Party. You also receive access to our Host Exclusives, 50% off items, free shopping with host bucks, and free shopping with Booking dollars for everyone who books a party at your party. To book your sex toy party with Julie in the Wisconsin or Illinois areas please fill out the form here. If you’re looking for a consultant to do a pleasure party for you in another state I can find you one in your area! Just fill out the form here and I will do some searching to see who’s in your area!

The Shunga products are among my top sellers, but my most popular item is the Shunga Sweet Snow. Shunga is a company that believes in getting the most out of your intimate experiences.

Shunga Sweet Snow

Shunga calls this a “sweet dessert” it’s an edible body powder in Strawberry and Champagne, or Honey. It comes with a beautiful full feather so you can dust it all over your partner’s body with softness which will help wake up the nerve endings on the skin and gets the blood flowing. It’s always fun to put the powder on 4 spots of the body, blindfold your partner and have them play connect the dots with their tongue while they try to find the spots the powder was applied. This is a really light way to tickle the skin and try a little sensation play with your partner.

Also, when you apply this product after bathing in areas where your body tends to sweat a lot, it helps prevent you from sweating so much. It’s really great for men who suffer from sweaty ball syndrome (or SBS). You can apply it on your neck, inside a ball cap, between your thighs to prevent chaffing, under your breasts, and even under your armpits. It’s delightful for women who sweat a lot at night from menopause in helping keep the sheets dry. It’s also a nice treat to put in shoes if you’re going barefoot to help keep your feet dry. Since the feather that comes with this item is designed for play, it’s easier to apply for this purpose with our Powder Brush made with goat hair.

I will be giving away one FREE Shunga Sweet Snow to a lucky reader who leaves a comment in the comment section of this post (located at the bottom of this article). A winner will be drawn on September 19^th, 2010 and be notified via e-mail. Only one entry per email address. (Your e-mail address will not be displayed in your comment, only I can see it, so no worries)

I will be teaching my G-spot class, and Intimacy class at Twisted Tryst August 26th-August 29th, 2010. Twisted Tryst is a twice a year event allowing its attendees sexual freedom in a way I’ve never seen before. This will be my second time at this event, and I’ve been counting the days down. If you want to get away with your partner, or even alone to explore some wonderful educational classes, meet some beautiful new people, or just have a great excuse to get away to do some adult style camping this is a must attend event.

There’s still time to register and get your camp spot reserved! Hope to see you there!

I was honored enough to be able to see Michael Domitrz speak a while back. He’s the author of “May I Kiss You”, and founder of the Date Safe Project, Inc. Then I went to Twisted Tryst to assist one of my consultants, and saw the level of asked permission at that event too, and it got me to wondering how many people actually ask permission for what they’d like to do to their partner, date, loved one, significant other, friend etc, before they actually do it?

Domitrz speaks a lot about asking for permission for a kiss on a date. In fact I was blown away watching him demonstrate how truly sexy it can be when someone does ask permission to go in for a kiss before actually making the move. It’s sexy!! Try to picture it. You’re on a first date, it’s the end of the night, you’re not sure if you’re going to get rejected or not when you start to move your head in for that all wonderful first kiss, and boom the receiver turns their head and gives you the cheek. How rough is that? What if to save yourself the embarrassment you asked first? And what if you wanted to show your date the ultimate level of respect by asking before you touched that person’s body in any way? So instead of the cheek, or an awkward first kiss you get this:

“So I had a really great time tonight, dinner was great, I enjoyed our conversation, you smell wonderful, and I thoroughly enjoyed my time with you. It’s the end of the evening and time for me to go, but before I do I was wondering if you’d mind if I gave you a kiss goodnight before I go”

How much more awesome and romantic does THAT sound? I think it sounds pretty stellar if you ask me. So what if you translated that same thought process to everything you do in a relationship?

Instead of assuming your partner is ready to have sex that evening, what if you asked? “Honey, I really enjoyed dinner, and the kids are in bed, and I notice that you have spent all day picking up the house so if you’re not too tired this evening I’d really love to be intimate with you when we go to bed this evening”. -or- “I know you’ve worked a super long day, and you must be exhausted, but I am really in the mood to make love to you tonight. Would that be ok with you?”

Or, instead of walking up to your wife and grabbing her tits while she’s doing the dishes (because for some odd reason people think women find this a turn on), after she was done you said “Wow babe you looked so amazingly sexy while you did the dishes I had a large desire to touch you, would you mind coming here for a moment so I could show you how much I enjoyed the view?”. How flattered would she feel that at a time when most women think they look unattractive she knew how sexy you really thought she appeared at that moment?

What if we did the same thinking in terms of our relationships? Instead of assuming that our husbands know it’s time to take out the trash, what if we asked them? “Hey babe, the trash if full can you take a minute and take it out for me while I get the kids to bed?”. No more worries about miscommunication, no more resentment that he isn’t remembering to take out the trash for whatever reason. A simple question and all is right with the world.

Instead of assuming you’re on the same page with the behavior of your children after a rough day, what if you asked? “Hey, did you see how the boy behaved at the park today? If that happens again in the future how do you think we should react?”

And you could even go as far as to bring the question theory in to your finances. Instead of assuming your partner has everything taken care of if it’s not a shared responsibility what if you asked? “Hey you’ve done an awesome job with the bills recently, can you use any help? Is there anything I can change or corners you need me to cut this month?”

And oh my gosh we could even use the theory with our in-laws. “Hey I see your mom’s birthday is coming up. Are you going to take care of the present, or would you like me to?” Instead of assuming the spouse is going to remember, what if we just met the problem head on and took care of it before it became a problem?

And then what if we moved those questions to the bedroom? Instead of wondering if your partner would think you were odd if you asked for anal sex what if you just asked instead of presuming. “So I’ve heard some of Julie’s awesome sex education about anal sex and I think some day I’d like to try it, what would you think about that?” Wow a whole new door of communication is opened.

Think about how much power a very simple question can have, and maybe give it a try. What can it hurt?

I haven’t done a toy review in a little while so I figured it was time. And we just got this new toy in our catalog so I wanted to be sure and share it with you right away! I got my hands on it and can’t believe how powerful it is.

Silk Touch Vibe

I am a huge fan of my clients buying bullets who are new to toys, or have a timid partner. They are less intimidating to introduce to your bedroom, and they don’t look like a penis which often times can make the man more comfortable and less inadequate if those are the reasons he is hesitant to adding a vibrator to your sexual play. A bullet isn’t hard to conceal, and can be carried anywhere without a big ordeal of a fake penis falling out of your luggage at the TSA counter. A bullet can be so versatile in what you choose to do with it.

So I wanted to introduce you to the Silk Touch Vibe. This little toy packs a powerful punch. It has five different speed settings so that you can find one to bring you to the edge and back if you choose, or you can just put it on high and go to town. You also get a dial to control the high to low settings for whichever vibration style you choose. So you have a lot of control over the power of this toy. It’s super soft like a soft velvet in your hand, and it has a cord that you can quickly pull out of the hand control if you need it to shut off without cycling through the speeds. We all know some people who have a clitoral orgasm need that sensation on the area to stop immediately as a woman’s body turns super sensitive after orgasm, and sometimes during, depending on your body. The rip cord is like an “oh shit I’m having an orgasm get away from me” safety feature in case you’re too impatient to push the buttons to turn it off.

This toy is made from a safe ABS plastic which I compare to Tupperware for your sex play. Lasts just as long and carry the vibration very strongly. So when I say this toy packs a powerful touch, I mean it. It requires 3 AAA batteries, and can be cleaned with a damp washcloth, soap and water. Or if you’re too lazy to make it to the sink you can keep the Afterglow Wipes in your bedside drawer, wipe it down, put it away and you’re ready for the next go around.

Why are bullets so fun and easy to use? You can use them in so many places, that’s why! I do not recommend using them anally however, as if you were to be the one unlucky person in a million who stuck it in the butt and the cord came out it wouldn’t be a fun explanation in the ER as to how it got there. You can insert bullets as well, but I do always recommend using a condom over the bullet due to how difficult it is to clean every part of where the cord goes in to the toy. Bacteria can gather there, and introducing bacteria in to your body is never a good idea. You can cup them in your hand and put them under the testicles while giving a blow job. You can use them on the clitoral area during penetration. You can put them on the side of your cheek while giving a blow job. You can use them on nipples for sensation stimulation. You can use bullets on the perineum area for added stimulation. You can use a bullet on the outside of the anal area to stimulate the nerve endings around the anus. Let your imagination run wild!

I will have this toy on my table for my parties in the month of August, so if you’d like to book a party in the Wisconsin area, please contact me! If you’re outside of my area, I’d love to find you a consultant in your area so fill out the contact form, and I’ll get someone in touch with you to help you set up hosting your very own sex toy party. And remember, if you prefer to not have a party and want me to come to your home to view the products in private, you can always set up a private session with me where I bring all my toys, answer your questions, and custom design your order to fit your needs! Just contact me and select session and I’ll be in touch. We have an amazing monthly special for those who host a pleasure party in the month of August on top of our awesome host program, so if you really like the Silk Touch Vibe, then host a party and get it for free!

One of the most common questions I hear in the ordering room after my sex toy parties is “how can I help my partner last longer”. While I’m a firm believer that a lot of sexual issues start in the mind, there are some things that can help delay ejaculation a little longer, with one of them being cock rings. Please keep in mind that every penis is different, and for some the results of a cock ring may be a longer lasting erection, while others experience a shorter time until ejaculation. It’s important to never judge the experience on your first try and let your penis get used to something new.

Before you start experimenting with a cock ring it’s important to know some safety issues around them. Don’t leave a cock ring on for longer than 20 minutes, if you’re using a rubber or neoprene cock ring then it’s a good idea to know where some scissors are so you can cut it off if you have trouble with removal. Never use a metal ring that is too small as those can’t be cut off with scissors obviously. Check with your physician before cock ring play for anyone with vascular diseases such as diabetes since cock rings do affect blood flow to the penis. And remember if things don’t seem to be going right on your first try, stop and try again another time. Nobody says you have to conquer the cock ring in your first try. The little engine that could kept trying, and so can your penis. I recommend trying it during masturbation first, so that if you’re attempting to use one with a partner and you encounter problems on your first attempt you don’t have any uncomfortable moments of silence while you hold back tears from snapping your penis with a rubber cock ring.

What do cock rings do?

Pretend your finger is your penis and put a rubber band at the end of it, it’s going to turn purple because all of the blood is held up there. Same theory for a cock ring. When you prevent the penis from letting blood flow out it becomes more sensitive so you feel things during sex much more. In some men this can make them last longer, but in other men at first this can make them finish faster. It also creates the illusion of a larger penis because the blood makes the tissues swell up a little larger. Sorry fellas, it isn’t a permanent enlargement, just temporary. Cock rings will also make your hard on more firm so you have a harder hard on. I couldn’t resist, it just sounds cool saying harder hard on. If you’re one of the men that do finish faster when using a cock ring repeated use should help this problem for you. A really neat thing the cock ring can do for the penis is to also tighten the vas deference which slows the flow of semen and prostetic fluid. Since orgasm happens with the proper flow of these two fluids, when wearing a cock ring it can prolong the orgasm from 6 seconds to 45 seconds. (a special thanks to Metis Black for this little tidbit of juicy goodness)

What type of cock rings are there?

Silicone, neoprene, vibrating cock rings, rubber, fastening cock rings, testicle separating cock rings, stainless steel, and metal. I’ve even seen some super neat home made cock rings. There are all kinds, but hese are the most common that you’ll find. Now let’s break down each cock ring type and who I recommend them for.

Silicone, neoprene (stretchy) – I recommend these for the beginner. They have more of a stretchy feel to them, so they’re easier to maneuver when you have to adjust. These are easier to put behind the testicles if you’d like to, or keep it in front of the testicles right at the base of the shaft. You can purchase a neoprene ring here.

Neoprene Ring

Stainless steel and metal – I don’t recommend these for a first time user. These are often times more aesthetically pleasing. Take a peek at a stainless steel rings here.

Stainless Steel Cock Ring

Vibrating cock rings – I love these for couples who are trying to find something simple to add to their sex life without bringing in a vibrator. A lot of times I hear the wives at my parties say their husbands are too afraid of toys and they want to bring something gentle home that won’t freak out their husband. This is sometimes what I send them with. The vibration can be used during masturbation as well for the man as he can flip it so the vibrating spot is hiting the scrotum. If used during penetration on a woman the cock ring can provide vibration to the clitoral area. Lesbian couples can use a vibrating cock ring to as an inexpensive way to add vibration to a dildo as well. If you’re looking for an inexpensive, easy way to ease your way in to sex toys, vibrating cock rings are a great place to start.

Vibrating Cock Ring

Fastening cock rings – these will provide for a snugger fit and can adjust if you are at a store and not sure of your penis measurements. You can find them with snaps, or there are some velcro variations as well. This is a nice way to start if you’re a little nervous using a cock ring that you can’t change the size of and you can remove it easier if need be.

Leather fastening Ring

Now how do you know what size of a cock ring to get?

Cock rings are always going to be sized by diameter. There’s a few ways you can measure at home and just keep your measurement in mind when you head to your favorite store, or order online. Most men are going to be just fine using a 1.75-2” ring size, but I’d like you to measure to be sure. Feel free to ask your partner for help, it’ll be a bonding experience. And in case you’re curious while you have the tape measures out, the average penis size according to Kinsey is 5-6.5”. Either use a fabric tape measure or a string. Make sure that you start behind the balls and don’t make it very tight when you go around. If you’re using a string just hold where the ends cross and then measure with a ruler. Divide this measurement by 3.14 to get your diameter and you’re set. It’s really important that you measure more than once to make sure you have the correct numbers. You definitely don’t want anything too snug and it’s not like you can take a cock ring back to the store and say hey it didn’t fit will you please take it back and sell it to someone else?

How do I properly put on a cock ring?

How to put on a cock ring

This is kind of hard to explain, so I’m going to use a picture. Since most of my customers are moms I hope you can forgive me, but it’s hard to have a sex ed blog without the random penis shot here and there. You want to be sure to put the cock ring on when the penis is semi limp. If you don’t manscape and have some crazy pubic hair going on, I’d suggest a little lube on the pubic hair to keep it down during placement. If it looks too tight and it’s a stretchy one then put it over a pop can for a little while to let it stretch out a bit. Most cock rings are going to go behind the testicles and then you slowly pull one testicle through and then the other so it’s snuggly sitting behind the balls. However, if you’re using a vibrating cock ring you’ll want it to be at the base of the shaft in front of the testicles so your partner can get the vibration on their body. Sometimes people buy those stretchy cock rings with nubs on them and like to put those mid shaft. That’s ok too, and adds a different sensation for your partner during penetration. Practice putting it on a few times, as it can take some getting used to.

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Ideas for comfortable sex positions during pregnancy. By Cory Silverberg, About.com Sexuality Guide.

What sex positions are okay during pregnancy is one of the most common questions people ask about pregnant sex. This question exposes two problems with the way we think about pregnancy and sex.

First, we tend to still view pregnancy as a medical condition, and pregnant women as extremely fragile. While there may be health issues and complications with the pregnancy that make certain kinds of sex difficult, for the most part there is no need to treat sex during pregnancy with anything other than common sense, and no reason to treat a healthy pregnant woman as if she were weak or ill.

Second, we still tend to think about sex as if there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. In this case many of us have this idea that there is one right (or safe) way to have sex during pregnancy. This is not true. There are infinite safe ways to have sex during pregnancy, depending on what kind of sex you want to have. Another problem with this line of thinking is that it is very rigid (no pun intended). Great sex requires a flexibility of thought, and a willingness to try new things when the old ones aren’t working anymore.

As a general rule, a good sex position for pregnant sex is one where:

• both partners are physically comfortable
• the position allows for the kind of sex and physical contact you want to have
• both partners avoid putting pressure on the uterus, or a partner’s full weight on a pregnant belly.

Experts say that women should avoid lying on their back or right side for long periods of time after four months into the pregnancy.

Beyond this, figuring out pregnancy sex positions requires some creativity,  sense of humor, and often lots of pillows. It may also mean abandoning penetration if it isn’t working, and finding other ways to please each other and please yourself.

If you’re looking for some ideas to jumpstart all that creativity, you might want to develop your own sex positions by exploring the sex positions game. If that seems like too much work, the following sex positions are generally considered to be more comfortable as your (or your partners) body changes during pregnancy:

The spooning sex position can be very comfortable as there is no pressure on your abdomen and you have lots of movement. Your partner can position themselves behind you at different angles to allow for penetration. Avoid lying on your right side in this position.

The side by side sex position allows for more equal physical contact than spooning, but penetration can be a bit trickier. You can cross your legs over each others and this may help. As with spooning, this position can be very comfortable as no one is feeling the weight of the other partner’s body.

The woman on top sex position offers the benefit of you being in control of the depth and angle of penetration. Later in the pregnancy you may find this position more tiring, and if balance is a concern you may prefer a lying down position, but others find this the ideal position.

The rear entry sex position offers many possibilities for greater comfort during pregnancy. You can lie on the bed (on your side, or briefly on your back) at the edge of the bed and your partner can be off the bed, either on their knees or standing up. Combined with the rear entry position, you can be off the bed on your knees (with a pillow underneath them) and rest your upper torso on the bed, with your belly off the bed.

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And from Julie personally…….talk to your doctor about your concerns, especially if you’re a first time mom. Most moms get a little nervous the first time they’re pregnant about anything to do with sex and it’s important to trust what your doctor is telling you is true. If your doctor says you are cleared to have sex, then by all means have sex. Love U has some different positioning aides that can be very helpful.

If you’re having trouble holding your legs up then I recommend alleviating that pressure and linking your feet together with a strap that your partner can maneuver around for you and hold for you in one easy grip like our G-Spot Link cuffs. They’re not just for the G-spot but also to help you hold up your legs and then you can easily adjust the straps to bring your ankles closer together or further apart and your partner grabs the strap to help you lift your legs while laying on your back.

If the pregnant person prefers to be on all fours but is having trouble supporting the pressure on the knees use the Doggy Strap. While on all fours place the strap along the pelvic area and the person penetrating from behind has handle bars to help lift up the pelvic area and allow for deeper penetration and less pressure on the belly and knees.

Don’t let your pregnancy stop you from enjoying sex. Celebrate the beauty of your relationship together before your life changes completely. Have fun!

Other ways to connect without actually having penetration is what I’d like to talk about this month. I know we touched on this last month a little bit but I find it so important to understand that sex doesn’t have to be just penetration, or the ending result of an orgasm. In fact when you build up to it, it makes sex all that much more exciting. So what else can you do to connect with your partner besides have penetration?

Intimate touching is a good place to start. Do you know every nook and cranny on your partner? Are you familiar with where each birth mark, or scar, or mole is on your partner’s body? Close your eyes and try to picture what your partner’s knee looks like. Are you drawing a blank? Then it’s definitely time to get to know your partner’s body in ways that are not just focused on their most private parts that produce orgasm, or have an entry hole.

You can also have some hot conversation with your partner. Imagine how powerful you would be if you were able to get your partner to just the point of orgasm through conversation and then stopped and let them bask in the joy of the body changes that happen when someone is about to orgasm. Not only will it be sexy, but you’ll also help your partner to learn what their body goes through as they get turned on. And then imagine how awesome it will be to embrace one another and bask in the changes of your partner’s body together while just holding your partner and not getting sweaty and out of breath and ready for sleep from the sex you just had. It also creates a great time to talk about future fantasies that you’d like to play out or future sexual desires you would like to share with your partner that you never have before. I always love long car rides with my husband as it’s when we have the most intimate conversations. Make time for an intimate conversation with your partner that doesn’t end in sex. Get your partner all fired up and then cuddle and save the sex for next time. Imagine how you will ravage each other.

Perform a strip tease for your partner that doesn’t end in sex. Record a sexy video for your partner that you two can watch together after a romantic dinner on the living room floor. Send your partner some nude pictures during the day while they are at work and be in that position when your partner arrives home. Just no touching allowed. Perhaps let your partner watch you masturbate after cycling through the pictures.

Whatever it is that sparks your fancy I’d love to see you connect with your partner intimately without it having to wind up in penetration. You can learn so much about your partner, and connect in so many ways when you take the time to appreciate your partner and their bodies.

Recently I got invited to go to a Twisted Tryst (also known as Spank Fest) with one of my consultants Sarah Sloane. I wanted to go meet her and watch her classes. I was planning to help with her Love U Parties business as well but realized she had everything under control pretty quickly. The event was outdoors and I was a bit hesitant of the camping aspect of things, but I decided to brave my fears and go. I was also a little nervous because I was going to be around a sexual preference that I wasn’t used to dealing with. In my time teaching sex education my audience, customers, following has usually been a mild in home party direct sales following. Basic knowledge about orgasms, getting to know your body, anatomy and general pleasure teachings is what I have always focused on. This was a whole new world and when I walked in I was overwhelmed.

A lot of times people are afraid to try new things in the bedroom because they don’t know what it’s going to feel like, or they don’t know how their partner is going to respond to them when they ask for something that might not be normal. How would your partner respond if you said you would like to be spanked during sex? Is that something you’ve considered asking, but have been too nervous your partner might think you were weird?

What if you tried something new, something unknown to spice up your sex life? What if that something new was a totally new sensation, new activity? Are you afraid to try it because you don’t know where to begin? Or are you afraid to try it because it’s unknown and different?

I was a curious human being this weekend and I thought to myself, thank goodness I came so I can share with my customers that there is a different avenue for pleasure out there if you’re not finding the right fit in the pleasure you’re seeking now. I might not be able to teach it as well as I do the other topics I cover, but I’m sure going to learn. And on my way home from the event I asked myself what would be the biggest factor in keeping some of my customers from trying something more kinky, or exploring in the kink world of BDSM and I decided it was fear. Fear of what other people would think if they knew you liked the kinky side of pleasure, and fear of what your partner would think if you mentioned that you would like to try the kinkier side of pleasure, and basically fear of the unkown. Would it hurt? Would it leave a mark? Would it make me weird? Would it ruin regular penetration for me?

So I wanted to let you know that the BDSM I saw this weekend I had a hard time understanding at first, but as I’ve been learning I can see that it’s a whole new world of pleasure for people, and a whole new way to connect with your partner, and a whole new way to explore your body. So I wanted to be the one to tell you that it’s ok to be kinky, it doesn’t make you weird. In fact these were the nicest, most friendly, most caring, most giving people I had ever met in my life. I truly did not want to leave and go back to the grouchy lady in the grocery check out. Had I liked camping more I might have stayed longer, but this sex toy lady prefers my air conditioned bed, warm shower, and flushable toilet.

BDSM and kink are not just the things you see in the movies, or read about online, or see in porn. It’s actually an amazing way to explore. It doesn’t have to involve pain, it can if you’d like it to, it doesn’t have to involve anything you don’t want it to, but it will give you an avenue to explore a different side of yourself that you never thought possible before.

Even trying something as simple as our Black Nipple Clamps to heighten the sensation to your nipples. Some people look at nipple clamps and categorize it as BDSM when in all actuality they can be a simple new sensation for your body that doesn’t have to include pain if you don’t want it to. You control how tight they get. Then if you decide you would like to see if you’d enjoy some light pain you have the option available to you.

Bondage Starter Kit

I’m convinced that BDSM is misunderstood amongst a lot of people that think it’s just whips and chains, and pain, dirty sex, and only for those strange people. Before I went to this event I myself thought of it as some choking, slapping, and calling your partner dirty names. And I’m a sex educator!  For a short time at the event I felt as though I was failing in my career that I was just so shocked at the amazing things I was seeing and then I realized after a discussion with Sarah that there’s nothing wrong with constantly learning and growing as a sex educator and that why I found it important to do this blog post and admit that I, Julie the sex educator, was in shock and awe at the beautiful sights I saw at Twisted Tryst.  What I learned is that it’s actually for everyone in whatever way you want to make it. It can be more pain, it can be your partner tying you up with our Vanilla Bondage Kit or if you want to get a little kinkier we also have the Love Leather Wrist Restraints. We even have a kit for beginners who don’t know where to start but want to start somewhere with our Beginner’s Bondage Kit. And I learned I need to learn more, so I’m excited to dive in and offer the information when asked by my customers. And although my following and customer base is not largely in to the BDSM products I will feel much more confident that I will have the information for the few who do inquire about this style of intimacy.

That’s how I roll, always researching, learning, watching for my peeps. I won’t lie. Twisted Tryst was the best watching I’ve done for my peeps in my 6 years! I thank them for having me, enlightening me, and reminding me that our world is full of beautiful, wonderful people with kind hearts and beautiful minds.